It’s hard to go through the month of February with the popular US holiday of Valentine’s Day being advertised everywhere and not think of Tina Turner’s song, “What’s love got to do with it. Who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken?”
It brings me back to my days working a Corporate job and how I often heard people say things like “get a thicker skin” or “leave your emotions at the door!” At the time, I thought something was terribly wrong with me for often having thin skin and being guided by my heart and feelings.
Well, the opposite has proven true for me in my development as a fuller human being, a more compassionate person with a bigger heart. Instead of growing thicker skin, I see now that I need thin skin, maybe even thinner than I have now. I need my emotions, my mind and my heart all together, working as a unit as often as possible with as much clarity as I can muster. I need a heart that CAN be broken because that is a heart that can also grow, expand and truly help others in the most meaningful of ways. Not as a rescuer, a co-dependent or an ego-boosting trip, but person to person, heart to heart and equal to equal.
I love Tina Turner, but I do think her song is quite wrong. We don’t need more thick skins, emotions left at a door, and hardened hearts in the world. We need much, much, much less of that. Hearts that can be broken are the hearts of healers and lovers. Willing to risk it all to live the life of our dreams.